Be a better wife...

 

 

 

 

Grant Daniel.

 

 

I am not nearly the wife I should be for him. Yes, I'm faithful in every way. I love him and would truly lay my life down for that guy. But, I have recently been really convicted about how I need to put him as the top priority in my life, even more then my children. Yep, even more then my helpless, innocent, can't take care of themselves, children. When God made Eve, He made her so Adam could have a help meet. Someone to help him. He told the man to leave his father and mother and to cleave unto his wife. Man and wife are to be one flesh. Not just spiritually and emotionally, but sexually too! Yep, you heard (or read) that right! We are one. That is pretty awesome to me! When I am sad, Grant is sad. When Grant is happy, I am happy. When he makes a decision, I help him make the right choice by praying for him. When he is hurt, I am hurt too.

 

 

 

 

When I see Grant, I see a lot more than a tall, handsome, green eyed hunk. I see the person I am intertwined with. We are not always able to be together every second of every day, but we pray for each other while we are apart. That is the best way we connect I believe. Once I had Ray, I realized life wasn't all about just me and Grant anymore. It included a little tiny 7 and a half pound strawberry blonde haired girl who needed a lot of my attention. Since I nursed her, I spent a bit of time with her. He helped me changed diapers, do laundry and run errands, but still, life was centered around a little girl named Raylea.

 

 

 

 

Fast forward three years later, I give birth to a little 6 pound and 14 ounce boy who decided to come a month early. Life became even more crazy. I thought it was hard leaving the house with one kid. Let's just say after I had Jack, I had a new respect for mom's with multiple children! Today Jack is nearly a year old and he loves to find tiny things around the house and put them in his mouth. Pennies, paper, glitter, decorative plants... you name it. It goes in his mouth! He loves to get the end of the toilet paper and roll it out about 10 feet. He loves to try to grab the silverware (including the knives!) out of the dishwasher as I'm hurriedly trying to unload it. That's just a few things a typical 11 month old does... within 2 minutes. Raylea is nearly four so she has went through a ton of stages. Drawing on walls. Finding the scissors and cutting things up. Eating nearly all the cookies as soon as I get them out of the oven while I'm out of the kitchen for THREE MINUTES. I can't believe that didn't make her sick. Walking up to her Aunt B's house when I had no idea she even our house. (We live on the same land, but still, that's a 100 yard walk for her.)

 

 

Life keeps me busy nowadays. I used to have time to sit and talk to my dog and brush her hair and put it in a ponytail with a bow in it... and now her hair is so long it's covering one eye and her nails are like three inches long. Ok. Not quite that long, but they are long. Don't freak out animal lovers... she is headed to the groomer in the morning.

 

 

 

I love my kids. I have a friend who can't get pregnant with her own and so I know on a pretty personal level from talking to her about the stress and issues that come along with that, that having your kids are truly a blessing. My point to you though, is that it can be hard to not let the kids become number one priority when they need help doing everything. Diaper change for one, helping the other one wipe. Nursing one, making a grilled cheese for the other. Carrying one on a hip, holding the other ones hand. One is crying, the other one is too. I truly stay busy as a stay at home mom. I can't clock out like the job I used to have. I watched a movie lately and a lady says on it that her dream was to get married and have kids. This is my dream too. I'm truly living it. I don't want to clock out, that's not my point. My point is that when you have kids, they take up a lot of time.

 

 

 

That isn't what this post is about though.

 

 

 

How do I make Grant my number one?

 

After Jesus, of course.

 

 

 

Well, for starters, the Lord has really spoken to me over the past year that no matter how tired I am. I need to spend quality time with my man when I can. So, the kids go to bed around 8:30 or 9.

 

 

Watch some Netflix, talk about our day, read the Bible, pray, turn out the lights??...

 

 

 

 

 No matter what we are doing, if we are doing it together and showing each other we love and care for each other, that's what matters. I have been praying for Grant for a long time. For wisdom, for guidance, for anointing, for peace, for boldness, for more of God. But what I'm going to start doing more, is praying for myself.

 

 

 

 

I want to be a more submissive, godly, trustworthy, and just a good help meet for Grant Daniel.

 

 

 

 

I want to be always please him in every way possible with a servant's heart and sweet spirited attitude.

 

 

I'm just being transparent, as he always says when he preaches.

 

 

 

I want to be a better wife!

 

 

 

There is nothing wrong with that. I'm pretty sure every wife reading this could be a better wife, if she was honest and didn't let pride get in the way.

 

 

My calling in life is to be a momma, yes. But my first calling was to be a wife! I sure want to make God happy with my fulfilling of my callings. I want to be all He has called me to be.

 

 

 

God has given each of us, whether you're a wife or husband, the power through Jesus Christ, and what He did on the Cross, to be overcomers of all and to stomp satan into the ground.

 

 

Make plans this week to surprise your spouse.

 

 

It doesn't have to be a romantic dinner and rose petals leading to your bedroom... (although I'm sure they wouldn't mind that!)

 

It can be a simple note thanking them for all they do. Grant writes me a note often and last week he wrote a little one and had it sitting on top of a new Realtree hoodie he bought me. It made my day.

 

 

It can be a cuddle on the couch.

 

 

It can be you placing your hand on theirs and praying for them.

 

 

It can be breakfast ready for them before they are out of bed.

 

 

It can be a facial. Which Grant also surprised  me with last month. (He's good.)

 

 

It can be a box of donuts. Okay, maybe that is just something that would mean a lot to me.

 

 

It can be giving the kids a bath while your spouse rest on the couch.

 

 

It can be a kiss on the forehead when they least expect it.

 

 

Just do something out of the ordinary.

 

 

I have my plans.

 

 

So make yours!

 

 

 

Have a GREAT week!